I recently watched a couple YouTube videos featuring Tony Robbins talking about his “Warnings” on our current economic situation.

This is the link to his first video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_rShZA_IjE&feature=related

This is the link to part two:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZuJqrcwrEU&feature=related

I thought these videos were great and that Tony did do a great job;  however, while watching the videos I couldn’t help but question who they would apply to and most importantly - who would watch them?

Now if your someone who is familiar with Tony Robbins or have seen or read any of his stuff you know he’s a pretty cool guy and for that reason alone you may be so inclined to watch these videos. On the other hand if you haven’t really seen or read any of his stuff as a viewer you may tune out within the first two minutes of the first video as he spends the vast majority of the beginning trying to dispel any thoughts of alarm on what he is about to say.

When the meat of what he’s saying finally comes out he focuses his points based around market trends, consumer confidence and primarily what is happening or going to happen in the stock market.  So, once again, if you have Stocks or are playing the Market its some great information. Not “new” information by any means but great information none the less. Brought to you in the characteristic Tony Robbins way. Which is what interested me. Not specifically what he was saying, but how he said it.

How he said what he was saying actually applies to a broader audience in my opinion.

“Forecasting” Market conditions is a great concept unless your not actually “In” the Market. And I’m not talking about people who have a retirement plan or occasionally call their financial planner to make an adjustment on their section 125 plan through their work. When someone is talking about “forecasting” they are typically referring to people who are “Traders” or people who have large sums of money invested with the soul purpose to create gains on their investment so they are watching the market closely. I personally don’t really fall into either of those categories but the concept of “forecasting” is still not a foreign concept and it is one that if thought about and applied correctly can protect and save you hundreds if not thousands of dollars through out your life time.

In the same manner that a “Trader” would become familiar with various Market trends over time and eventually be able to accurately determine various Market dips and spikes you can also become fluent in your ability to accurately determine good times and bad times on an economic level in your own household. If you are paying attention.  The key to that is: Paying attention. Because the reality is most people don’t.

Prime example - vehicles. Nearly everyone who works has a vehicle or some form of transportation that they use. How often does it fail? If it fails frequently you tend to expect it so you make arrangements for it or you grow accustom to repairing it. But typically, once repaired or the arrangement is made in our minds the “problem” is solved so we forget about it and go about our daily business until, almost like clock work, it happens again. See what I mean? If you have a vehicle or currently have some other means of transportation it is easy to determine or “forecast” that eventually you’ll have a problem with it and it will need to be addressed.

Like Tony mentioned in his video, in this life there are SEASONS. Winter, Spring, Summer and fall. And those “seasons” are descriptive of how a persons financial circumstances will be over various weeks, months and years of their life. The people who tend to do well financially in life recognize that, prepare for that and plan accordingly. Am I suggesting a person plan to fail? Not at all. I’m suggesting a person plan to succeed! Starting with the thought process of recognizing and planning for the basics in their life. Recognizing the basic patterns that are going on currently in your life from a financial perspective and then applying them to the prospective “season” that you are currently living in.

So, your currently working a job that pays the majority all of the monthly expenses yet doesn’t leave much left for playing with let alone savings or retirement. Great. So the typical response from every one on the outside looking in is - Save. Gotta save! And in some aspects they are correct but what good is your ability to save if you lack the ability to recognize you need a new tire on your car before it blows and leaves you waiting for a tow truck on the side of the road? Or your battery goes out, your alternator stops working, etc. How about incurring a “unexpected” medical expense? Or an “unexpected” traffic ticket? Things like that really throw a wrench into “savings”.

But, are they truly “unexpected”? I mean, you are human right? Humans get sick, a persons body can get hurt. Vehicles need maintenance and will break down. To carry the thought process further, who are you buying Christmas presents for this year? Its currently the end of August right now. Christmas is a few months away. Are you and your family going to have a good Christmas this year? What costume are you wearing to that Halloween party you haven’t been invited to yet? See what I mean? People equate “savings” to money in the bank. They equate “forecasting” to playing the stock market. Yet many people, common folk, like myself are consistently finding them self in situations that require our attention and focus on an immediate level because of our lack of anticipation.

I was told once that Life is like Chess and the people who do well in life have the ability to think two or three moves ahead. Its kinda true. You don’t have to be some huge financial guru to recognize and determine the “seasons” in your life. You don’t have to have a ton of financial training and back ground to recognize and anticipate the ebb and flows of the income and liabilities in your life. You simply have to start paying attention.  Start seeing your life, viewing it from a financial perspective. Reducing it to its lowest common denominator.

I had a friend of mine that had three brand new pairs of jeans in his closet, labels were still on. I kinda laughed and said, “What are these for?” He looked at me and said, “Wearin’.” I said, “how long they been sittin’ here?” He said, ” ’bout a year.” I said, “A year!? Your kidding! Why would you have them sitting here for a year?” He said, “I had extra money at the time, they were a great deal and I’ll eventually need them.” I said, “That’s crazy, I just buy jeans when I need them.” He looked at me and smiled then said, “Ya, and that is why you look the way you do!” See, at the time, I was broke. No cash to go buy new jeans even though I needed them. Get the point?

You got financial difficulties? The economy is bad, things are tough? Recognize that this is “Winter” and that means “Spring” is coming. You are reaping the rewards of the “seeds” you planted last Spring. If this Winter sucks, take note of it. Remember it. Write it down and then make damn sure this Spring you plan better. Put your self in a situation of anticipation rather than one of simply reaction. That way when “Winter” comes again, you find yourself inside and warm with plenty to eat.

Just what I think.

Every notice the seemingly huge discrepancy in belief amongst “Christians”? I’ve always known that different religious organizations have differed in regards to various doctrine and application practices. But among their “own people” I always assumed that, well, they got along. You can call it naive or foolish to think that way, and in some regards you would be correct, but the reality is - isn’t it supposed to be that way? Aren’t believers of the same group supposed to “get along”? Like minded/believing individuals that have been brought together/united for the same purpose? Working towards the same goal? Wasn’t it “intended” to be that way? I’ve always thought so.

But the reality is - its not. Not amongst “Christians” anyway. That’s not how its done. With “Christians” our efforts to get people “saved” are often at the expense of common sense and basic common courtesy.  We will fill the pews on Sundays, listen to our weekly sermon and then forget or ignore what we’re supposed to be doing throughout our week…..

What we’re “supposed” to do? For most “Christians” what we are supposed to do consists of attending church services, reading our bible, memorizing scripture and “witnessing”. And most can quote scripture on doing those things that will verify, justify or condemn our appropriate actions.  But are we correct?

When the bible speaks of “hiding the Word in our hearts” is it actually referring to our willingness or ability to memorize the scripture? Or is it asking us for something more. Hide it in your “heart”, to me, implies that the “Word” should become a “part” of you. It becomes less about what your able to memorize and recite and more about simply what you UNDERSTAND and KNOW to be true and is reflected not in simply your “actions” but in who you are and how you respond. Like a “blink”. You don’t think to yourself, “blink!”, you don’t have to remind yourself to “blink”, you just - “blink”. Its something your body KNOWS to do. So, wearing a bracelet that says, “WWJD” is less of an importance when what Jesus would do is simply what you would normally do. Get it?

And what WOULD Jesus do? As “Christians” that implies that we believe in the teachings of the Christ. That we “follow” the teachings of the Christ. So…..what did Jesus think of the religious institutions of His day? How did He respond to them? Was He in church every Sunday? Or was He out in the street? Did Jesus surround Himself with other “Christians”?….Or did He associate with tax collectors, prostitutes and the “thieves” of His day?

See, I find it fascinating how people who call themselves “Christian” behave today. Its very interesting. Their idea of being a “Christian” consists of how many scriptures they can copy and post on FaceBook. You try and ask them a question about life and they’ll simply attempt to answer you with a generic “scriptural”  response. But is it really a response? Is that what Jesus did? It says in the bible that Jesus had knowledge of the scriptures….but when I read what He says (in the red letters of the text) it doesn’t really sound like He is really quoting some ancient text. Its almost like His knowledge of the text, His understanding of the text Had given Him the ability to respond in His own words in a way that was made very clear based in the dialect that was spoken during His day. Shouldn’t we be following suite? Isn’t that how “we” as “Christians” should be using the bible?

I wonder if Jesus worried about whether or not people of His day thought He was a “Christian”? I mean, He wasn’t always quoting scripture or attending church now was He. That oughta thrown up some red flags! He didn’t seem too concerned with who He was seen with or where He was at now was He? Its almost as if He was more concerned with doing His Fathers work than He was of peoples opinions of Him? And He didn’t always give an explanation either. Interesting isn’t it.

But us “Christians”…..well, we tend to focus on the “important” things like whether or not we say a cuss word or are seen holding a beer. The real vital faith stuff like church attendance, bible reading and scripture recital/copy and paste so we can further our walk with….uh, “Christ”….:)

See, I’m not so sure THAT is what He ever intended. And I think at times people get so wrapped up in the checks and balances of the scripture that they sometimes miss the things that I consider to be very basic. So, I can’t help but ask if your a “Christian”….uh, what ARE you doing?

Your at church on every Sunday morning but when was the last time you met someone for coffee? Met someone one on one to discuss “life”, “marriage”, “finances”, “faith”, “belief”, etc.? I find it funny, I’ve heard people say they have prayed for God to give them an opportunity to be a “witness” or be able to share their testimony. And I’m thinking - huh!? You want to know where your “opportunity” is to share the message of Christ?! It comes while meeting over coffee! It comes while discussing the ball game! It comes while at work shortly after a meeting! And sometimes its as short or profound as a one liner!….sometimes its just a single word. If your waiting for God to tell the pastor of your church to get you up on stage and hand you a mic, good luck, while your waiting maybe you should continue reading that book (the bible) you claim to know so much about.

So what ARE you doing?

Are you truly being a “witness” for the Christ? Are you spreading HIS message? The one of grace, mercy and forgiveness? Are you trying to “save” or are you allowing Him to be the one doing the “saving”? ‘Cause if your the one who’s doing the “saving”, please, do us all a favor - stay on the bench. Never let your butt leave the pew. I don’t want ANYONE to learn what you think you know of Christ.

On the other hand, if your reading this and any part of it has touched you in a way that has lit a spark in your spirit….please, STAND UP! And take a day off. Take one Sunday off where you don’t grace the doors of your church…..and set up a time to meet someone for coffee during that time. Buy a breakfast or lunch for someone during that time and don’t necessarily go with your bible in hand, ready ta read scripture and “save” someone. Just go….to talk, about whatever they want to talk about, and just see where the Spirit leads your meeting. You want to be “used” by God? You want to be a “witness”? Do that and quit be squeamish about where or with whom He is sending you. Love them for who they are and where they are at and allow Christ you work in them as He has worked in you. Truly be a vessel for Christ and allow Him to use you.

Get off of the bench, get into the midst of the lives that are being lived around you. Take a Sunday off from your brick and mortar building you call a “church” and have “church” over coffee where two or more are gathered in His name.

Show this brief blog to other “christians” and encourage them to read it. Start a movement in your community to “Take a day off”, hit the streets and deliver the message of Christ over coffee or during a ball game if need be. Tell people to leave their bibles at home, call someone up for coffee or breakfast and simply have no preset thought process or “approach” in mind during the meeting. Let God be in control of it and then set another meeting.

Some of you belong to churches that have 50, 60, 100, 250 members? Maybe more? What if every one of the members of your church did that? What if they all took a Sunday off and did what I’m describing? What “testimony’s” do you think would come of it? What “movement” in the Spirit do you think people would see? See, I think every pastor across the State should be telling their congregations to do this!

Take a Sunday off! Meet someone for a little one on one. Then….don’t limit yourself to Sunday.

My father was handicapped. Growing up with a handicapped father was sometimes hard on me to accept as a boy. Doing physical activities with my father was virtually non-existent. But as I got older and my life began to develop things between my father and I changed. He became a resource. A valuable resource, full of a wealth of information. And I would talk with him for hours, methodically picking his brain for all that he knew, all that he experienced and how it was that he chose to go about and address various things. It was a comfort. He withheld nothing from me and never seemed to shy away or be afraid of answering the “tough” questions. He passed away years ago, but the memories of us talking, the value of what was said is ever present in my mind and…..I miss it.

This man, the man I call my “Father”, the one who took so much time, was so willing to hear my voice, be the “rock” in which I could polish myself on, was so patient with me for so long and through so much…..wasn’t even my biological father. He was a substitute or what most people would call a “stepdad”. And I think about that, and I think about how I was with him at times and I think about some of what I said to him at times and I can’t help but be amazed at the level of patience he had with me. And I wonder at times - do I measure up? Do I measure up to this man? This old, frail, handicapped man that had no biological connection to me what-so-ever, yet took me and called me his own and showed me the strength of character of what being a man was supposed to be? I’m not handicapped….but at times I wonder.

My son turned 13 last month. A year before his 13th birthday I had told him that we would be taking a trip together. He’s been talking about it and thinking about it all year. Last month the time had finally come and with some minor preparation we set out on a road trip that I titled our “Walkabout”. To be honest, I was a little worried about it and I could tell, in some ways, he was too. I overheard him ask his mother, “What are we gonna talk about?” , and I couldn’t help but smile. It was a question I had been asking myself too.

When we left we had no concrete plan or schedule as to where we were going or how far we would get. I decided to carry the conversation the same way. Look for opportunities throughout our trip and slip in short talks then. That seemed to work out as it was less of a “lecture” from dad and more of just a chat between two guys.

We headed south down through California. We visited 6 different cities, put nearly 2800 miles on a rental car and even saw the Mexico border. During that time I told him that people always say the teenage years are tough. That him and I would most assuredly butt heads at times but that it didn’t have to be a bad thing. It would be what we make it. We talked about work and that as long as he was alive he would have a need to provide for himself food, clothing and a place to live. That whether he was rich or poor those needs would not go away. That when he finds a woman and starts a family those needs would multiply and that the expectations for his performance in that regard would be tested.

We talked about women. I told him that with women comes responsibility. I gave him examples of women to stay away from and ones to cling to. I told him that some will build him up, make him better, stronger and others will attempt to crush or tear him down. I said, there are two things to remember when choosing a woman to be with: #1 You should never have to worry about your wallet and #2 You should never have to worry about who’s hands are in her pants. I said, if you have to worry about either one of those things, she’s the wrong woman - dump her.

At one point, on the streets of San Fransisco a question in regards to the female anatomy came up. We were surrounded by people and as we were making our way through the crowded side walk I gave him an answer. I could tell by the bewildered look on his face my answer raised more questions but I left it at that knowing we’d come back to it. Later that night, on our way to San Diego, he looked at me and said, “Remember when we were talking about that?”, I smiled and said, “Ya”. He said, “What did you mean by that?” The answer I gave him was in detail and he listened intently asking questions throughout, I could see the wheels turning in his head as he pondered my responses. I responded matter-of-factly to show him that there was no cause or reason to be concerned. It led to other topics of conversation and we both became so engrossed in the conversation we nearly missed our exit and went across the Mexico border!

We talked about life, how its a series of “ups” and “downs”. That the people who manage the “downs” well are the ones that prepare for them. That just because people do things a certain way doesn’t mean that’s is how things have to be done. That he can choose to do what ever he wants and that his decisions would bring results. That he cuts his own path and that he shouldn’t be afraid to do some things differently.

During the course of the whole trip, every night, we read a chapter of a book called, “As A Man Thinketh”. And we talked about what the author meant or was trying to say. I gave him a scripture to memorize. I told him it was his scripture. I told him it was the first scripture I had ever memorized and we read it every night before going to bed. We analyzed what it meant and discussed how much of a resource it had been to me throughout my life.

When we were on the way home, I told him that over the course of the next few years we would be having more talks. Some would be about the same or similar stuff but that each year we should plan on trying to take a trip together. He seemed pretty stoked about that.

I think about my son and daughter a lot. I’ve pictured how they’re lives could be and should be based on the decisions they choose to make as they get older. My only hope and prayer is that I can be the resource my father was to me and that by doing so they develop their “sea legs” in which to weather the storm on their own, strong and unafraid, of what life brings to them. So, I’m hoping to give them some of what I know, “tools of the trade”, that I have learned based on my short time here.

What they do with it, will be their own business.

I recently posed the question on FaceBook, “If you had to choose between having Salt or Sugar which would you choose?”

A number of people unwittedly responded without knowing the definitions of what their choice implied.

Listed below are the definitions of what their choice TRULY meant.

SALT:

People who choose Salt are typically more productive and level headed. Willing to speak their minds and are straight to the point. Dealings with them are easy and you’ll always know where you stand. They are naturally sweet so they do not need or crave Sugar. Because of this they tend to be more attractive, get more dates and have stronger relationships. They are naturally high producers, finish tasks easily and require little supervision. They operate more on logic and tend to be less emotional. They are thick skinned and are not persuaded easily. They are immune to sweets. Candy, Chocolate (especially Chocolate) is viewed as the enemy that will take a perfectly normal person and turn them into a nutjob. (One of the many reasons why women who love Chocolate are considered to be Crazy!)

SUGAR:

People who choose Sugar tend to be flaky and unreliable. Their emotions are all over the place. They share their thoughts at random as their minds tend to work sporadically. They are naturally bitter. Because of this, they are constantly looking for things sweet. They have poor relationships and are never satisfied. Nothing is ever good enough. Hyper and compulsive. Having a clear understanding of what they are saying or what they are doing will depend on what mood they are in or what sugary substance they have eaten. They crave Chocolate. Chocolate is their form of Crack or Speed. When eaten it sends then into a Chocolate induced coma where their brain shuts off and their “Crazy” takes over.

In short, beware of people who choose Sugar over Salt. When someone who chooses Salt says they love you – they mean it. When someone who chooses Sugar says they love you ask them when was the last time they ate Chocolate. Because when the sweet effects of the Chocolate wears off you may find yourself lying in bed with your wrists tied, a sock in your mouth and being threatened with a baseball bat for leaving the toilet seat up.

(This is a JOKE. Just for FUN. Get it? Laugh!!…..if you don’t get it or are offended - eat your Chocolate and shut up! LOL)

My “dad” was a pastor. As a child I can remember sitting in service with my eyes glazed over or on the verge of falling asleep as my dad stood up there in front of everyone and droned on and on and on about all sorts of “stuff” that at the time made absolutely no sense to me. It was boring. But occasionally he would bring up a story in the Bible that would peak my interest and I would listen intently, not because I understood the implications of what he was saying, but because….well, it was a story.

As an adult, some of the “stories” carry new meaning. They make more sense. They bring up new questions, have better applications and I often find myself with the question - What if?

What if David had never sent Bathsheba’s husband to war? What if her husband had survived? What if Samson had never met a woman like Delilah? What if Delilah hadn’t cut his hair? What if Jacob decided not to work an additional seven years for Rachel? What if the journey of the Israelites through the wilderness had only taken the 11 days? What if Judas would have kept his mouth shut or if Thomas had simply “believed”? ……Solomon, in all his wisdom, and yet in many cases was so unwise….? What if? What if they all simply did it right? What if they all simply heeded to the instruction and teaching of God?……

What a boring book it would be to read.

See, I find it fascinating that when people speak of David, they tend to bring up the story of David and Goliath. It was his triumph. He had many victories but THAT story, by far, was his most note worthy. Bring up what he did to Uriah and you’ll get a blank stare. And yet its THAT story that when I read it I think….and this was a man after God’s own heart? Fascinating.

People read about Samson and they know he was a man of great strength. But what of Delilah? Was she not equally strong? I mean, she must have been one fine dish. Had Delilah never been mentioned would we have ever known the power of a woman over the worlds strongest man? …..notice the word - STRONGEST? If Samson was the strongest, what hope is there for the average man to resist the power of women?

Jacob wrestled with an angel. EVERY ONE knows that. But….Rachel? SEVEN ADDITIONAL YEARS?! I read that and go….seriously bro!? He worked seven years for Leah. Was that not enough? What was soooooo great about Rachel? This is a girl we’re talkin’ about right? So, that’s seven hard years worked for Leah and another seven hard years worked for Rachel….FOURTEEN years! Awesome. Rachel musta been fine too, carried the same “power” and yet in no way resembled Delilah? Interesting. I mean, that IS a head scratcher isn’t it?

The Israelites get saved from their captivity in Egypt, set out on a 11 day trek across the desert and end up spending FORTY YEARS out there? Awesome. Why was it a golden calf? Why wasn’t it a golden cactus or a golden scorpion? There isn’t any calves in the DESERT! Or was the “calf” symbolic of their worship of “food”? They were getting “manna” from God but no, they wanted steak. Got it. After all steak IS good and it does have some nutritional value but I think if I were one of them and had to choose, I’d choose - Tent. “Tent” - The protector and comforter against all the elements!…..bet we could have even made it out of gold. All hail “Tent”. ???

I read these stories…..and I wonder…..do people think like this? I mean, when they read about them, sure they are great and all, but do people think about the “humanity” of it all? The “realness” of it all? Lemme explain.

As a child I can remember Sunday school teachers, Pastors, etc. saying to me: “Hide the Word of God in your Heart”. Hide it in your - “Heart”. But what does that mean? Ya can’t physically stuff a Bible in your heart, can you? And if I ask, the Knee jerk response is: “Study Scripture”. Great. Study what. For what purpose? And then “they” will give you a list of examples of when, where and how your supposed ta “use” it. Uh….Cool.

But I can’t help but think…..what if….its MORE THAN THAT? What if, when it says to “Hide the Word of God in your heart” it isn’t questioning or prompting you to sharpen your memorization skills? What if your ability to recite it chapter and verse isn’t quite what it meant? What if “hiding it in your heart” means…..YOU OWN IT. It becomes a part of YOU. Until when put in a position or situation of “practical” application it is YOU, it is how YOU would respond, it is your OWN words. And people will look at you and they will be surprised with your seemingly keen sense of understanding. They will question your ability to relate and understand things of this world with such ease. They will be attracted to the sound of your voice in a crowd of other opinions. They will look for YOUR “words”…..like water in a desert. The “words” of truth, the “words” of life, the “words” of understanding. Forged and created in the sands of time, past down from generation to generation that have become - your own.

What if? What if all who “believed” wrote it on the tablets of their heart - that way? Where the responses, the reactions to the life “stuff” that we are all surrounded by, were simply met with decades of understanding and truth?

What if we are living in the “stories” of the bible right now? Names have changed, places are different but the “stories” are still the same? Do you know a “Jonah”? Have you met “Elijah”? Have you laughed at “Moses”? Seen “Delilah”?….I mean, have ya SEEN “Delilah”?? (lol). I have. They still “live”. Every one of them. Right now. Today.

The question is: Are the behaviors, attitudes, words, etc. that make up WHO they were - your OWN? Or has your ability to recite the scripture simply detached you from the story? Because, the “story” -  is your own. Your living it. Your surrounded by “Davids”, “Jonahs”, “Naomis”, “Jacobs”, “Samuels”….”Delilahs” - right now. How many of the “characters” mentioned in the bible, that are spoke so highly of, would you REALLY have hung out with or demonized or criticized - now? Which “character” are you?

Recognize that and wandering in the “wilderness” will make more sense and it will put you on track for TRULY “Hiding the Words of God in your Heart”.

Read any headlines lately? Hear the latest news reports? Check out any blogs? Its been all over the news. Real issues, real problems, buried in a sea of eye catching, emotion stirring headlines and bullet points.

“Arizona passes tough laws on immigration”

“Students wear American flag t-shirts on Cinco de mayo”

“Vandals paint ‘Burn this Racist City’ on Arizona sidewalk”

“‘This is Alabama, we speak English”

In short, people are pissed and the media has done a great job of exploiting that. So, hopefully, with this quick blog I can provide a little insight into the REAL issue here and offer you (the reader) the opportunity look past the smoke and mirrors of the subject, see it for what it is and change your behavior to act accordingly.

To start, understand something: THIS IS NOT, I repeat, NOT a “Race” ISSUE!! Absolutely, 100% - NOT. Legal and Illegal immigration is a social and economic issue. Period. It is a simple supply and demand problem.

Because of that TRUTH, it wouldn’t matter if the immigrants that came into the U.S. illegally were Canadian, German, Austrian, French, Australian, etc. If you have any number of those “races” (or “nationalities”) come in with the same volume as the illegal immigrants from Mexico do and operate in the same manner that SOME illegal immigrants from Mexico operate we (The U.S.) would STILL have a major problem. And that is why, this isn’t a “race” issue. The media will take isolated events or political bullet points in an attempt to say or imply that it is. It isn’t.

So don’t buy into it and simply refuse to play along.

People will pull the  “race card” to get their own way, divert attention from the real issue, ignore or transfer personal responsibility, gain “benefits” or to simply prompt an emotional response. Don’t be a sucker. Don’t fall for it. Don’t let it distract or persuade you from seeing and addressing the REAL issues.

I’ve been to Mexico a few times now and I love it. I love the culture, the difference in the environment and I have had a blast with some of the local people. I would go back in a hot second. Does that change the fact that we have an illegal immigration problem here in the U.S.? Nope. And its not an easy fix - is it. In my opinion the cat was let out of the bag a long time ago.

So, now what?

Check your attitude. Check your thought process. Recognize the issue for what it is and react accordingly.

I LOVE Mexico. Do I like every thing about it? No. Of course not. But every time I’m there I make sure every one I come in contact with knows I LOVE MEXICO. I love the water, I love how the toilets flush, I even make a conscious effort to speak Spanish. Why? Because I’m IN Mexico! I show THEM respect for their language and culture and because of that I’m met with smiles and a willingness to help. I’m NOT changing WHO I am. I’m NOT pretending to be someone OTHER than who I am. I’m NOT attempting to display or lose MY culture. I’m operating on their soil with a certain level of respect. I don’t walk into their “house” and expect them to move the “furniture” around for me. “I” move around their “furniture”. And I would do the same thing if I was in Canada or Germany or France. Get it? That is just BASIC COMMON SENSE. So, if you are an immigrant, here legal OR illegal, check your thought process and behave accordingly. Don’t conduct or condone bad behavior and attempt to use your race as a means to justify it.

Are there certain stereotypes that people associate with race? Sure. For instance: When I’m in Mexico and a local finds out I’m from America they sometimes ASSUME I’m dumb and rich. So, sometimes they’ll try and roll me on a purchase or short change me on a service. Being a male, I can’t walk the streets at night without being offered sex with a prostitute or get a solicitation for drugs. Happens nearly every time I’ve been there. Do I blame “Mexico”? No. I blame the individual that is trying to steal from me or the individual that is attempting to solicit sex or drugs from me. And I choose to simply not participate. Some of them have this stereotype of me that because I’m an American Male and I’m in Mexico, I’m dumb, rich and there looking for sex or drugs. None of which is true. Does it piss me off? ABSOFRICKINLOUTLEY!! Do I think the stereotype is wrong? Sure. But the only way I have to change that stereotype is to show them something different. So, I do. I don’t just SAY I’m different. I BEHAVE differently. In time perhaps that stereotype will change. As long as it doesn’t I will do my best to be the someone that doesn’t quite fit in their stereotypical box.

So, your a Mexican and your living in the States - cool. Don’t allow your self to be lumped into the stereotypical box we have for you here. Just don’t. Act, behave and live according to the land your residing in and don’t condone the behavior of the people around you who aren’t. Its that simple. Its the respectable thing to do AND…..its COMMON SENSE.

If you were to take a piece of chalk and write a scale from one to ten on a chalk board, with one being the least offensive and ten being the worst offensive, you would have a scale in which to measure how I say things. Now if you can picture that scale in your mind I want you to know that sometimes when I talk/write what I am saying or writing sounds like a one to me, or another number that is lower on the scale; however to some people who read what I’ve written or hear what I’ve said it may sound like a ten. I’m telling you this because what I am about to tell you may sound like a ten and that is not my intention. My hope is that when you read these words an understanding of their content will become more clear and that with that clarity you may in turn share what you have read - as a one.

For the past few months I have had the pleasure of participating in many debates, many subject discussions, various online “chats” with a variety of people from all over the globe and one thing has stood out and is abundantly clear - you don’t get it. Good people, good intentions - clueless.

So, I want you to understand something. If you derive nothing from this blog but this, know this to be true - “Sin” is Sin.

Sin IS Sin. It doesn’t change or lessen from person to person or “believer” from “non-believer”, its the SAME. In God’s eyes its all the same. There is no measure of one sin than is greater than another sin or one person that is any more guilty of it than another. We are ALL - sinners. And I find it fascinating and somewhat comical reading some of the posts of people who claim to be “believers” yet they continue to judge people based on how they talk,  how they dress, the words they say, the language they use, the method of a persons delivery or what it is that is in their life, made readily apparent to the world as - sin. They (”believers”) approach these people from a position of being “in the know”, solid in their belief, that they are in some way doing better? When the very opposite is often true.  Its a disgrace.

“Believers” that claim to be a representation of the Christ yet deny Him and what He’s done on a daily basis. Did ya get that? Did you read that right? Yes, I said it - DENY HIM. They deny the whole purpose behind God sending His Son, they deny the life that He lived and they deny the very REASON He died on the cross! By judging people the way the “world” judges people, by requiring people to “clean-up” their appearance or speech prior to your willingness to talk to them, your denying the very reason behind your salvation.

We wrestle NOT against “flesh and blood” remember? What is a persons appearance if not “flesh and blood”? What is a persons speech of what comes out of their mouth if not “flesh and blood”? What is a persons behavior or “sin” if not “flesh and blood”? What are those things if not the coverings, window dressings, fronts or “masks” that people use to cover up their heart? You should KNOW this! So, look to the heart! As God does and see them for how God sees them with - love. With compassion, with mercy, with grace, show them forgiveness and have an understanding that they are a “work”, God’s work, and step back and allow God to work in their life! In short, GET OUT OF THE WAY!!!

I had a buddy of mine stop by my office a few months ago wanting to talk. As I sat there listening to what he was saying I began to smile. He looked at me kinda funny then asked me why I was smiling. I just smiled again and said, “Because, I know.” My response surprised him and he asked me how I knew. I told him that I’ve always known. That response surprised him more. He didn’t understand why I hadn’t said anything or done anything. I just told him, because I knew that God wouldn’t leave you there! I knew that in God’s time, when you were ready, He would bring about a change in you!……NOT according to MY time! NOT when “I”, the all knowing, all hearing, GENIUS of God’s LAW (sarcasm), thought he was ready to change! God’s time. I’ve been a believer long enough to know and understand the difference. So, I allowed God to work in my friend. Being the faithful God that He is - He did. Ya see?

Your not being a “witness” to the Christ when your requiring people to “clean-up” (whatever it is) before you’ll engage with them. Your not being the representation of the Christ if after you lead them to Christ you require or expect them to change IMMEDIATELY after they first come to believe.  We are clay. CLAY, in the potters hands. But first we must believe. First, we must subject ourselves to the hands of the “potter”, THEN and ONLY then can He begin to mold us, shape us, into the person He wants us to be! Why do you deny Him that? Why do you, as a “believer”, deny the people your talking to that? Is God’s work that He has begun in you done? Are you so “polished” that you are unwilling or can’t see beyond your own self and see people for not who they currently are but what they WILL be? Shame on you!

Jesus FULFILLS the LAW! The wages of sin is death, right? JESUS FULFILLED that! He was the PERFECT lamb! That “lamb” was slain, fulfilling our need, our requirement to be - perfect. Would you deny that? Why do you require from people more than Christ? Why do you insist on seeing people other than the way God sees them? Why is YOUR door not always open? Did Jesus require you to “clean-up” prior to Him being willing to die for you on the cross? No.

Quit seeing people the way the “world” sees them. Quit treating people or their “sin” the way the “world” treats them. You’ve been shown the LIGHT! Proclaim the LIGHT! Show them love and love them where they are at. Knowing that God will not leave them there! They will “change”, they will abandon their “sin” in God’s time, according to His PERFECT time, when they are ready and only He knows when that is! Do you know what that means? It means: PUT DOWN YOUR CLIPBOARD!!!…….. and get off the bench.

Right now they are literally thousands of “believers” huddled in their prospective churches, side by side, praising and worshiping God. Great. I wonder, how many of you actually understand what your praising? They stand there and raise their voices to God only to leave and deny the work of His Son when encountering “non-believers” throughout their week. Great. Makes me vomit. So stuck on the “world’s” view of things they won’t so much as talk to a person holding a beer. And if they do, they spend the entire time “witnessing” to them about how bad it is that they got that beer. Gimme a break. That’s not Christ! Not even close! Yet they’ll judge the person drinking the beer and in the same breath wolf down the donut!

“Sin” is Sin. Its all the same. Maybe your sin isn’t like the prostitutes sin, but its sin all the same. God hates sin, but he loves YOU. Tell them THAT! Allow them to be the clay, allow the Father to work in their life! I’m not condoning their sin! God doesn’t condone sin! But He’ll hang with you when other people won’t! He’ll continue to work with you, patiently working and molding the clay as any good “potter” would. Do THAT with people! Show THAT to people! Proclaim the message of the CHRIST!! Because THAT is what He does, THAT is why He did what he did! THAT is what makes the life and death of Jesus so GREAT! He opened the door for us all and we live in a state of grace, mercy and forgiveness BECAUSE of Him! Without Him…..the “Law” is just a list of good things to do.

The greatest love story ever told is written in that book. That book called the Bible. It is a message of hope, love and redemption. Share it. Share THAT message. Don’t fall prey to the “religious” traps of this “world”. As a believer, you know the truth.

If you have had the unfortunate opportunity to  read any that I have written, if you have had the unfortunate opportunity to hear me talk, then you KNOW I don’t always talk or write - Proper. I struggle sometimes with my layout, I often times use slang or slip a cuss word out, or behave at times like a bull locked in a china cabinet with people. My “sin” is no different than your “sin”. We all struggle with a “sin” that is unique in ways to us. Get your eyes off of the “sin”, whatever it may be, look PAST the faults in people and see them for who they are as God sees them. I’m NOT perfect. I am a “work” that was started a long time ago and is still in progress. Give people a break. Give yourself a break. Let the lists go. Accept people for where they are and KNOW that God won’t leave them there. Allow them to grow. Be a person that helps them grow. That doesn’t mean you crack out the bible and start reciting scripture every time you see something in someone that God may want to work on! SHOW them the message of hope given to us by the Christ. One of love, compassion, mercy, grace and forgiveness sealed in His blood.

Get off the bench and deliver the message. Your “witness” isn’t in the confines of your brick and mortar church. It’s “out there.” Get off the bench and engage! And do it with the “potters” purpose in mind.

On this day, February 14th Valentines Day, this is my Valentine to you. That you would see and remember the life that Jesus lived and you would know and understand the message He gave through the price He paid for us on the cross. One of throwing open the doors of grace, mercy and forgiveness! It is the greatest love story ever told. Tell the story and let the “potter” do His work in people.

God Bless.

Right now we are nearing the end of our holiday season. Thanksgiving came and went and now Christmas is just two weeks away and all I have been able to think about over the course of the last two weeks has been “Groundhog Day”.

Not really in reference to the actual Groundhog day holiday but more in regards to the movie “Groundhog Day” with Bill Murray.  Story line is kinda vague to me right now because its been a while since I have seen it.  The memory of it that sticks with me is the main characters unfortunate predicament of living what he deems as his worst day of his life over and over and over again.

When watching the movie the concept seems kinda funny in a, oh man that would suck ha ha, kind of way but in real life it would just - suck.

Its often been said that “History repeats itself”. Of course it doesn’t exactly, but I do often think about that saying when contemplating my future.

I know that if I do nothing different, change nothing about what I’m doing, what I’m reading, what I’m saying or how I’m behaving nine times out of ten I’ll get the same result as I always have.  And if the result I’m getting is good then I need to continue doing whatever it is that works but if I’m not happy with a specific result, I know I need to do something different in order for it to change.

In less than a month a New Year will be upon us and although I know I take the coming of a new year very serious and with much thought I can’t help but wonder what other people are thinking about? Maybe this year was great for you? So you’ll spend this next year trying to duplicate or maintain that - right? Maybe this last year left you with more to be desired? What will you do differently in this next year to get you a different result? Have you thought about it? Do you have a plan? Is it a new plan or has it been tested?

Don’t get me wrong I’m not just talking about dreams and goals stuff. I’m not simply suggesting that you make a list of your goals and develop a plan of attaining them as your New Year resolution. Although there is nothing wrong with that. People do that every year :). But have you stopped to consider….how you got to be where it is you’re at? How you got to be in the job that you’re in? The relationship you’re in? The financial situation your in? The weight your at? The “routine” your in? Etc.? The decisions, attitudes, thought processes or circumstances that got you…where ever it is that you are at? Have you - R E A L L Y?

See I think that having a New Years resolution, creating a “fresh start” type of thing IS good….but not if your gonna treat the “new plan” the same way you did the “old plan”. Know what I mean? Does that make sense? How many times are you gonna change the plan until you figure out its NOT the plan that is the problem? The problem may be with the person that’s working the plan. And I’m not necessarily saying YOU have a problem or that your “plan” isn’t working. I’m just saying maybe…MAYBE if you find yourself in a “Groundhog Day” situation and history keeps repeating itself in your life, maybe you should think less about the “new plan” and more about - how you worked the “old plan” and what you need to do to get a different result.

Generally, when people are struggling with their finances they tend to look for a new better paying job. Maybe its not that you need a new job. Maybe you need to look at another way of making money or work to become a better money manager?

How many times have you seen someone who has recently gotten a divorce or just gone through a break-up only to end up with a similar person that they just left? Fate? Coincidence? No. Of course not. So afraid of ending up alone they make decisions based on fear and then get upset when it gives them a bad result. They may have changed the name or the face of the person they were with but because they haven’t recognized what it was that got them into the prior bad relationship to begin with they are destine to repeat a similar result with someone new. And the cycle goes on and on. Some never realize or consider their role in the process.

I’ve seen people who are totally buried in volunteerism, every weekend is booked, every evening is filled with functions and meetings, they complain about having no time or about their lack of taking a vacation yet they keep volunteering! Hello?! They simply can’t say no. So day in and day out they go about their same routine and before they know it - years have past.

Don’t you just LOVE the new diet programs they come out with every year? The “new and improved” way to weight loss? Thousands of people jump to them in hopes of getting the “plan” that works. Because the last 10 “plans” they tried didn’t work? No! Generally, its the person that was doing the plan that didn’t work.

Ever seen the “moms” and “dads” that are so stuck in their daily routine that every day is the same as the day prior and the next day is the same as today? Every once in a while they mix it up with a ball game, a movie or dinner out….if they’re “lucky”??

Is it the circumstances in your life?….or is it - you?

Are you living a “Groundhog Day” life?

Change it.

Whatever the case may be, don’t allow another day, week, month or year of your life become a “Groundhog Day”! Find out why the things in your life are the way they are and actively work to change them. Pursue it - daily. You may not need to come up with a “new plan” or make a New Years resolution. You may just need to fine tune or change how your currently working the plan you got! How your thinking about it, how your perceiving it or how your behaving to it to get better results. Make sense?

Consider why you are where you currently are in your life….then write your goals for this next year and follow them to the letter. Ultimately, if this advice doesn’t work out for you, no worries!

There’s always next year!

Even when writing this title I couldn’t help but laugh. Because there is no such thing. The concept alone is ridiculous. Yet people make assumptions when two people are together. If they get into a fight, people say well, you’ll work it out. They assume that if your smiling your doing great. Throw in a kiss, a pat or a smile towards your significant other and your good ta go. You’ll get no questions. You could be in a crowd of people and no one would even think your having problems. Because if you’ve been together for any length of time, having problems, big problems, isn’t acceptable. As a couple you become a “fixture”, like a lamp or a chair in their living room. People assume - you’ll always be there. As a couple you become the standard. The base line for every single persons hopes and dreams. Its comedy really. Your in a relationship and you got this single person saying they want what you have. And ya look at them and don’t know what to say because you know what they don’t know or understand yet. That they’re chasing a pink and purple unicorn. A mystical creature that appears if only for a brief moment in our dreams but is the farthest thing from reality.

I got married when I was 21. My lady was 19 at the time. High school “sweethearts”. Looking back at my current age of 36 the thought of it just seems ridiculous. But back then we were “motivated” and we did exactly what we were “supposed” to do. What we were expected to do. We got married, punched out a couple of kids and settled into - married life. In time we became the “fixture”.

We had our problems early on in our marriage, but that was expected - right? That’s what people tell you. So when your in the midst of it ya think it’ll pass. You’ll overcome it, move on and eventually be the old couple sitting on your front porch sharing a cup of coffee, watching all the young people riding around on there bicycles, talking about how things used to be.

And as we watched our friends and family members in relationships and marriages fall one by one - years passed. Next thing ya know you have people asking you for advice. And you want to help, you want to be positive, you want to give some insight - something to help. All the while knowing that there is no guarantees.

So they come to you with questions on communication, finances, infidelity, physical abuse, verbal abuse, a loss of “status”, problems with raising their kids, how to break out of being stuck in the “routine”, lack of sex or the boredom that comes from having a lot of it….:) “All my husband does is zone out on the ball game”, “She doesn’t want me”, “He drinks too much”, “The only thing she talks about anymore is the kids”, “I’ve lost ‘myself’”, etc…….and I can’t help but look at them and - smile. ‘Cause we’ve been there, done that. All of the above….times ten divided by - two.

And we’re still married? YUP! For now. Why? Because all truly IS fair in love and war. If your in a relationship, make no mistake, you got whatever happens coming. How can I say that? Simple. You don’t like the odds of the game, don’t play. You choose to play, you choose to get involved in a relationship with someone else then your gonna get “cut”. Its that simple. And unless your dead what happens to those “other couples” can happen to you. That’s the truth.

So, I’ll give you my best take on a few things based on what I know to be true, having been married for 15 years, two kids and a dog later. And do me a favor. Don’t take this as arrogance, or that I’ve got it all figured out - I don’t. This is just the “insight” that I know and the only thing that separates me from you is that I’m willing to talk about it.

If your in a relationship:

#1. If your “withholding sex” for ANY reason your messing up. You may think your justified. Your not. Give it up. There is no grey area. You don’t like that answer? Get over it. Your mate will be glad you did.

#2. You want and need to be “wanted”. So does your mate. Initiate. Confused by that? See #1.

#3. You “bored” with your sex life? Mix it up - together. That’s “vague”? Damn straight! Its your business. Do what your gonna do, just do it together. You HAVE to keep the attention of your mate! Work towards that.

#4. Finances are an issue? Work on them together. I’m a HUGE advocate for “mom”. I’m a firm believer in women taking care of their kids. ESPECIALLY when they’re young. I think its the best thing for the kids and their mother. But if you can’t afford to do that then do what you can to balance that out. If you can - do it. Then when they’re older - GO BACK TO WORK!!!! And the time will vary from couple to couple, kid to kid. The important thing to remember here is to be willing contribute to the household finances if you need to.

#5. Share the housework. Dishes, laundry, vacuuming, etc. You helped create it, you can help clean it. If your single you get to do all of it! Its better to do half. Single people get less sex.

#6. “Cheating” is in the eye of the beholder. The definition of what that is varies from couple to couple. The “root” of it is deception and dishonesty. Is it a “deal breaker”? For the naive. How and why is a long subject and the circumstances of it can be complex. Make no mistake, if your in a relationship, given the right set of circumstances - your BOTH capable of it. For the person who “cheated” its a clear sign that they are looking at you and pointing towards the door. They are telling you to leave. Get it? For the person that is cheated on its a clear sign that you haven’t kept the attention of your mate. You haven’t fulfilled SOMETHING. Is that a mean thing to say? Sorry, I’m not trying to be your friend. Just telling the truth. And when you encounter infidelity in your relationship - you need to look at youself first. Can it be overcome? Absolutely. Should you try to work it through? I don’t know. Maybe. Maybe not. But don’t let your pride or the fairy tales you had as a kid prevent you from seeing what needs to be corrected in your relationship.

#7. “Connect” on a routine basis. Not just sexually. Text, “chat”, write letters, send songs, flowers, go on dates, do housework together, etc. How often? Every day. Too busy? Make time. Incorporate your mate into your life. It can be your “New thing ta do that day!”

#8. Communicate. (gotta admit I laughed when I wrote that too!) Why? Because people say that all the time in reference to relationships, they just don’t explain what that means and most people equate it to just talking. Sure, you should talk. But WHAT you talk about should be….hmmm….”raw”. This IS your “mate” - right? You wake up and go to sleep with this person - right? So why shouldn’t they know the how, when and why about your masturbation habits? Taboo? Not for your mate. They should know it all. Why did I choose that? Because its personal, not talked about and that should be the level of communication you have with your mate. Talk to each other on that level and I guarantee you, talking to each other about how, when and where the kids should go to school will be easy. And you’ll understand each other. Looks, expressions, body language will become more clear because you will have seen your mate at their most vulnerable moment. And they’ll stick with you - because they trust you.

#9. You were a “friend” first. Remember that? Remember when you first met? That’s your base line. Your default. Your standard. When times are tough, go back to that and treat each other, talk to each other as friends. And as a friend….you’d want to know all the gory details. As a friend, you’d give your best advice. As a friend, you’d see “their” side. Step back and approach it as a friend.

#10. All is fair in love and war. YOU did this. This is the “life” YOU created. Was it all you? Of course not. But you played a key part in it. Look at you first. Learn from your mistakes and do things differently.

Is there more? Sure. Probably. Will it “solve” anything? I have no idea. Should you stay or should you go? I dunno. Sometimes you need to get over yourself in order to move forward. Sometimes you just need to go.

Or you can do what my wife and I did.

Declare a “redo”. Erase the past. Start over. Re-write it.

Not diggin’ the “married with kids” life? Change it. Turn it upside down. Together. Create a new life. We have sold or gotten rid of nearly everything. We put our old wedding rings in the drawer and replaced them with rings we got for less than $10.00. We bought a car that is soooo not practical - but its fun to drive.

“Our Life”, the one we created as kids, is over. Done. And we’re still together now, not because its what we’re “supposed” to do, or because its “expected” of us, but because - we want to be. And if that changes….and it could, we’ll make sure to send you the “memo”…..:)

Until then, we’re TAKING our life back. We’re gonna travel. We’re letting the kids grow up! We’re remembering…..who “we” are. Doing what we want and cutting our own path.

Hope that works for you. If not? Perhaps your watching the wrong couple…….:)

Have you heard the story of the Tower of Babel? It takes place in the ancient city of Babylon and its account is recorded in the bible, book of Genesis 11:1-9.

The short version goes something like this:  Man kind had decided to build a tower reaching into the heavens. Not to glorify God, but to glorify….uh, themselves. As a result, God “confused” their language and the tower was never finished.

Now whether your a believer or not, whether you agree with the outcome of the story or not you can not deny that since that record what the world has developed into is nothing short of - Babel.

The biblical account is an explanation of the variety of different languages we have in this world but it doesn’t stop there - does it? Its one thing for two people to speak different languages and have difficulty understanding each other but what about when the person your talking to speaks the same language as you….and yet you don’t understand each other?

Its kinda funny really, but over the course of these last few months this account of the Tower of Babel has been ever present in my mind due to totally separate events that have happened to me through one on one conversations, emails, chat, texts, etc. Different people, different methods of communication, all speaking the same language….yet not understanding each other and what is being said. Because communication and the understanding of it goes far above and beyond what is said verbally doesn’t it. We communicate with each other in more ways than just verbally and when we can’t “see” each other’s face or body language or “hear” the tone of what’s being said the result is often hurt feelings, misunderstandings, frustration…..conflict.

Don’t get me wrong, technology can be great, I use email, text, write blogs, participate in discussion groups, chat and send and receive messages all the time. But its also generally through those avenues of communication that I find myself in the most trouble. And it happens for different reasons. You can type something that to you seems totally funny, absolutely hilarious…..and the person reading it is getting mad or offended or simply isn’t laughing. I get bit on that allot! Primarily for two reasons: #1 I find humor in not necessarily what is said but how its received. How people respond to things is interesting to me. So even though the joke may be lame, if someone responds to it in a funny way….I’m gonna laugh. Oddly enough….some people don’t like that. (kinda weird, huh? lol) For me, watching your reaction or reading of your reaction to something I’ve said or done lets me know how confident a person you are and who I’m talkin’ to. So, if I tease someone a bit over something they’ve said or done and they come back with a sarcastic or smart a$$ remark, I know that whoever it is has a pretty solid self image and…..I can relax and be me without the worry of offense. I tend to gravitate towards people like that. If the response is that of offense….I move away, ’cause I’m not really out to offend. Get it? And in person doing that with people is a lot easier! People can see the expressions on my face, they can see my body language and 9 times outta 10 they get it quick…..and relax too. You’d be surprised by the number of people that have told me that they enjoy just hangin’ out with me because they can say and do what they want and not worry about offending. For me, its almost a personal requirement. If I can’t relax and be me….one of us has got ta go! And like I said, my intent isn’t to simply offend…I’m trying to figure out who you are and what your made of. If you know that about me then when you are cross over something I’ve said you know you can come to me, tell me and I’ll fix it. People that cry offense and then don’t wanna talk about it? Aren’t worth worrying about, in my opinion. Which is why on rare occasions I simply wish people the best of luck and go away…

The other reason or #2 I should say, is that in some areas of communication I’m kinda…..socially retarded. The net is a GREAT place ta “hook up” apparently…..and that’s cool, ‘cept….I’ve been married the majority of my adult life and have never really “dated”. So….for me acknowledging that a woman is attractive is…..”hey, your lookin’ good girl!”…its a COMPLIMENT!!! and for those who are paying attention to my posts or comments….its rarely done and when it is, its pretty random. BUT guess what…..some women actually think that statement means I wanna “hookup”!!!!??? They could be located a thousand miles away from me, doesn’t matter, I compliment them and the next thing I know….I’m gettin’ a chat window poppin’ up!?? Some women, just by adding them as a friend, to them, means I want cyber-sex!??? And…..lol, I uh…find it all kinda funny, strange, sad, pathetic….I dunno, just weird.

The single dating thing just seems weird ta me anyway. Ma lady and I were talkin’ about that the other day. Some people really think a lot into little stuff. And…well, I’m a retard when it comes ta that stuff, so I miss stuff like that all the time. A look or a glance or a gesture that to me doesn’t seem like anything. To a single woman or man they may take it differently. Ya know its kinda weird, I talk to people, always have. I don’t really think about it. It comes easy for me. And I don’t care how ya look, I talk. But what I’ve found out is that if that person is single, guess what….they think your coming on to them! (roflmao!) Its gotta be the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard! But its true.

So hey, MAYBE Ima little “old school”…..for me, if ya like someone, you send flowers, write poems, send songs, etc. NOT simply take the time to be cordial and say hi! Makes me kinda wonder what women these days are settling for???

Babel. So the world has changed a bit and its something I’m slowly getting used to. Up until recently….I didn’t get it. Writing a book, having a website, being a part of a discussion group….I talk to a ton of people. For the most part, I say what I want. When it comes to my lady, no worries, she knows she’s married to a social retard. But other people? Its just mind numbing some of the “stuff” they come up with. The little misunderstandings, misinterpretations, assumptions and unwillingness to simply ASK that surprises me.

Throw relationships into the mix of chat, email, messages, text, etc. and you got the makings of a real good time or a nightmare. Couldn’t count how many times I’ve had to ask or been asked by one of my friends if they were mad at me. Seemingly innocent stuff, TOTALLY misunderstood. Luckily enough my friends, having gone through the “backbone” test I pre qualify them with, call me or meet me in person and ASK. Then the matter is settled and we move on.

On the flip side, email, chat, text, etc. can be very cool! I’ve found that when you are upset with someone…..sometimes its easier to get your feelings and emotions out through a well thought out email or a engaging chat. It just depends on the situation and people involved.

At any rate, regardless if your speaking the same language, with this “new communication” you may find yourself….not communicating and not understanding each other. So, tread lightly and when in doubt ASK! If your not willing to do that, then you place no value on the person your talking with and one or both of you needs to go away. Its that simple.

The tower of Babel wasn’t  recorded to simply frustrate and confuse. It was recorded as a reminder to the difficulty we have in communicating with each other and that our reliance should be on God. And when two people are speaking the same language and not understanding….sometimes the clarity of the situation comes to each of them through prayer. Uh ya, PRAYER! Strange? Maybe, but I’d be lying to ya if I didn’t say it. Sometimes when things are tough and your in the midst of “it” the understanding of what is going on doesn’t come through words, expressions, emails, texts, chats, messages, etc. Sometimes it takes a little more than those things for you to get it. Get it? The QUICKEST way to understand a person or a situation is through prayer. Not lookin’ for “brownie” points from the pastor here, sorry if the term bugs ya, just….its true. So whatya pray for? UNDERSTANDING in the circumstance or situation your involved in! People, friends, family, relationships that are willing to take it to prayer……stay a part of each other’s life.

Babel. God’s way of saying, you have communication issues, seek me for understanding…..make sense?

If it doesn’t then your retarded and I mean that in the nicest way possible! (lmao!…..see, now I find that funny!:)